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Angry Giving up the dream!

Hi guys!

i know this is very unprofessional thread I am starting but am kind of attached to this website now.

My GF broke up with me last week and it has seriously shook me. Now, i don't eel like studying for Step 1 or anything. to be frank i feel like i should give up medicine.

Can anyone tell me if I can get a refund for my application to Step1? I already booked the three months period but did not confirmed the date with prometric.

So, is there any chance of getting some refund? and whats the procedure.. i feel so depressed and God knows!

I cannot even leave the place go to some other part of the world and focus. and i cant stand the fact of her leaving me.
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The best revenge is being successful!

I don't know your personal situation but I would say don't give up on your dream, it will take time to regain motivation and your sanity, however time will heal all. Be the best "you" that you can be so that when she hears about your success and accolades she regrets losing the opportunity to be with you (a successful, intelligent doctor and gentleman).

You lost something which had meaning in your life and that's not easy, but you had no control over that. You DO however have control over whether you will obtain something else that holds meaning in your life which is your dream of becoming a doctor so do you really want to willingly lose that as well?

All in all, I wouldn't make such a big decision when you you're mind isn't 100% right, give it some time. Goodluck in whatever you do decide to do.
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well what happened should not have dr but that does not mean you step back in life.. life does go on..... you cant search for something away from where u lost it.. don link both............ take a break and use this time to get out of the bad...... in fact concentrate more on ur dream now.. jus becoz u lost something it does not mean u lose everything.. u deserve much more doctor.... i don think its a good idea to step back..... one dream crashed does not mean u forget to dream..................... there is much more to life yar.... the BEST WILL COME TO YOU..... it wont be unfair to you..... fr now all that i would say sit back and start afresh and make the dream in hand a reality ...... afterall u cant crash ur parents hopes toooo..........
SO GET UP AND TAKE CARE OF THE BIRD IN HAND!!
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Dont let a break up determine your future.
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Hi... I can understand what u r going thru cuz I was also in d same boat few years back... But one thing I can assure u from my experience dat everything happens for good... At this time it might not make sense to you but I promise sometime later u ur self will agree wid me... And for God's sake don't make d mistake of giving up on ur goal to become MD.. U ve strived hard thru ur med school years to come to dis level... N now when ur so close to reaching ur goal u cannot afford to lose it... Take dis as an opportunity to prove u r worthy of d best in life... Don't let it drag u down... Y do u wanna give up ur dream foe somebody who doesn't deserve u... Think abt all d hardwork ur parents hv put in to help u reach dis level.... Do dis for them, for ur self... And as for ur break up, if u guyz r meant to be together u will be back together, if not, probably u were never meant to be.... Hv faith in God n believe in ur self... Hopefully dis post helps u... Don't give up my friend...
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Idea! Thank you everyone!!

you are right guys!

I know this looks like the most dreadful thing. But i need to learn and move on. Its something which might always kill me. but we are doctors and we should learn to heal ourselves. at least, LOOK well! so, I have decided not to give up.

I didn't feel bad about her for doing this to me until i started this thread and I thought if a person doesn't even care to wait till i finish one of the most important exam in my life.. then why should i give up for her. She knows everything the pain and the stress & fear i am going through and will be in a worse condition once she leaves, but she still did. and for her own hapiness, so she doesn't deserve my sacrifice. Till we were together I did whatever best I could do, and i will always do my best, just this time she's not the lucky one to get any of that.

We used to fight sometimes, but who doesn't when two people live together there's always some issues.
so, fine. She is mean to not wait and have no confidence in me.
I will wait for her but will never let her be in my way to my dream!

THANKS EVERYONE!! [red]
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man what are you sayingg you have one chance in your life for usmle but every day you can have a girlfriend usmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmle are mor important than your girlfirend wake uppppp goood luck
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I think you have the answer already to the challenges that you are facing right now: Arise! Awake! And stop not, Till the goal is reached!! SV. You quote such a brilliant thought from Swamiji and yet you are letting someone else and some circumstance steer the course of your life. You have to be stronger than this Dhruv.

I've been in your shoes, betrayed by love and by family. Financial problems with a small child, on the verge of divorce, screwed up step 1, I can go on and on. Yet I live in the hope of a better time. As the Dalai Lama says, "this too shall pass."

Arise, Awake and fight like Arjun. Give yourself some time, but fight and win. God Bless
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you are right guys!

I know this looks like the most dreadful thing. But i need to learn and move on. Its something which might always kill me. but we are doctors and we should learn to heal ourselves. at least, LOOK well! so, I have decided not to give up.

I didn't feel bad about her for doing this to me until i started this thread and I thought if a person doesn't even care to wait till i finish one of the most important exam in my life.. then why should i give up for her. She knows everything the pain and the stress & fear i am going through and will be in a worse condition once she leaves, but she still did. and for her own hapiness, so she doesn't deserve my sacrifice. Till we were together I did whatever best I could do, and i will always do my best, just this time she's not the lucky one to get any of that.

We used to fight sometimes, but who doesn't when two people live together there's always some issues.
so, fine. She is mean to not wait and have no confidence in me.
I will wait for her but will never let her be in my way to my dream!

THANKS EVERYONE!! [red]

helo doctor,one thing i would like to tel you that girls cant wait for anyone because of theirs family (parents) isues,she is an daughter not a son.boys refuse to theirs parents for marage but girls cant do that.it doesnt mean that she dont have believe in you,she has thats why she fal in love with you.but in front of theirs parents she cant do anything.am also in same situation so i can say that she has not mean to stresed u for anything,thats why she may have told you that she cant wait for you,as am pasing thru worse situation she might be in same situation.
but dont give up she may have no intention like that,so keep it up dont stop anything.

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Sorry, if this sounds cheesy (aka unprofessional) but watch Lakshya and Kai Po Che. Excellent movies.
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helo doctor,one thing i would like to tel you that girls cant wait for anyone because of theirs family (parents) isues,she is an daughter not a son.boys refuse to theirs parents for marage but girls cant do that.it doesnt mean that she dont have believe in you,she has thats why she fal in love with you.but in front of theirs parents she cant do anything.am also in same situation so i can say that she has not mean to stresed u for anything,thats why she may have told you that she cant wait for you,as am pasing thru worse situation she might be in same situation.
but dont give up she may have no intention like that,so keep it up dont stop anything.
and if she gona to tel her parents that she is in love with you,then what parents wil do? within one day they wil try to force her for marage with other guy,thats why she cant do that.you might be gentle man thats why she is in love with you,but what she can do infront of theirs parents how she can tel theirs parents that she dont like to mary with other guy.parents thoughts are like that as her age increased they wil face lot of prblms for marage.thats why parents force theirs daughtrs for marage as soon as posible,thats why she cant wait for you.try to undrstand her.and please dont give up do your's best for ur's dreams,we get one dream to come true at one time not all dreams (girl friends whom we wana to mary + exame).when you become MD in USA she might be hapy for you not wil jealous, keep it in your's mind.thats all i am feeling for mine love whom i going too loose after few days.so please doctor dont give up.
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Hi guys!

i know this is very unprofessional thread I am starting but am kind of attached to this website now.

My GF broke up with me last week and it has seriously shook me. Now, i don't eel like studying for Step 1 or anything. to be frank i feel like i should give up medicine.

Can anyone tell me if I can get a refund for my application to Step1? I already booked the three months period but did not confirmed the date with prometric.

So, is there any chance of getting some refund? and whats the procedure.. i feel so depressed and God knows!

I cannot even leave the place go to some other part of the world and focus. and i cant stand the fact of her leaving me.
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and if she gona to tel her parents that she is in love with you,then what parents wil do? within one day they wil try to force her for marage with other guy,thats why she cant do that.you might be gentle man thats why she is in love with you,but what she can do infront of theirs parents how she can tel theirs parents that she dont like to mary with other guy.parents thoughts are like that as her age increased they wil face lot of prblms for marage.thats why parents force theirs daughtrs for marage as soon as posible,thats why she cant wait for you.try to undrstand her.and please dont give up do your's best for ur's dreams,we get one dream to come true at one time not all dreams (girl friends whom we wana to mary + exame).when you become MD in USA she might be hapy for you not wil jealous, keep it in your's mind.thats all i am feeling for mine love whom i going too loose after few days.so please doctor dont give up.
i got enagaged.
be happy doctor everything hapens for a reason,mine boy friend has lot of obstacles thats why he left me with some dramas.mine good wishes always remains with him, may all his dreams come true in his life.May God write his luck with golden words.May God give him all mine hapines.
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and if she gona to tel her parents that she is in love with you,then what parents wil do? within one day they wil try to force her for marage with other guy,thats why she cant do that.you might be gentle man thats why she is in love with you,but what she can do infront of theirs parents how she can tel theirs parents that she dont like to mary with other guy.parents thoughts are like that as her age increased they wil face lot of prblms for marage.thats why parents force theirs daughtrs for marage as soon as posible,thats why she cant wait for you.try to undrstand her.and please dont give up do your's best for ur's dreams,we get one dream to come true at one time not all dreams (girl friends whom we wana to mary + exame).when you become MD in USA she might be hapy for you not wil jealous, keep it in your's mind.thats all i am feeling for mine love whom i going too loose after few days.so please doctor dont give up.
If it was patents issue, I would have never forced her. I know parents give us birth and its ok if we respect them above our choices. I've met her parents and her parents love me. Her mother cried in front of me bcz she feels her daughter is doing wrong to me.
Her father had also persuaded her to talk and try to solve the problem. Seriously, I'm a family loving person. I know the importance of family. But this is different. She says she's tired if me. She can't wait for me to achieve and the. Get married. Her poit is that she feels if she stays with me and force me to marry her I will do that but later we will have problems and also she doesn't want to move here an there with me. Last thing she said was that she already has a good life and now she wants better. With me, she sees dark future.
May be she is lying by these words but am sure her parents are not an obstacle for sure.
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If it was patents issue, I would have never forced her. I know parents give us birth and its ok if we respect them above our choices. I've met her parents and her parents love me. Her mother cried in front of me bcz she feels her daughter is doing wrong to me.
Her father had also persuaded her to talk and try to solve the problem. Seriously, I'm a family loving person. I know the importance of family. But this is different. She says she's tired if me. She can't wait for me to achieve and the. Get married. Her poit is that she feels if she stays with me and force me to marry her I will do that but later we will have problems and also she doesn't want to move here an there with me. Last thing she said was that she already has a good life and now she wants better. With me, she sees dark future.
May be she is lying by these words but am sure her parents are not an obstacle for sure.
if her parents are satisfied from you then i cant say anything about her? does she knows about it her parents are agree with you?
i left my love because i know whats parents wish,and he is also aware of that what parents see in a boy for her daughters thats why i was unable to force my parents for him,they may say wrong words like status is big isue or other things,even he had not tried to satisfied my parents for that,many times i asked him to do this but he left me by himself for his exames and his own family isues, i tried alot for him.he was unaware of that.
at end i cant say anything for your's girl friend if her parents are agree to mary her daughter with you than why she is doing like that.may be she has any obstacle thats why she is saying like that she wil face darknes if she wil mary with you.
most of girls isues are same as i have.
but doctor forget her and move on concntrate on your's aim and try to get your's dreams to come true,and world is ful of bechlor girls,may you wil get your's dream girl beter than her,if she has told you by herself that she wil be in darknes then you dont cry for her when you wil be MD in usa then she wil note that whether her decision was wrong or right.
but most of boys asume by themselves that girls are thinking like that she wil be in darknes thats why she would like to leave you.
forget her whether she had told you these things or not.if you are thinking bad about her than you must move on.dont waste money for anyone around 1 lac we spent on each step,thats why your's goal should be everything not girl.see what other say for you,but you wil loose money in between so doctor forget her and move on for your's aim.

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Indians and their Bollywood drama. God, its just a girl. If you're ready to throw away your entire career over some high school drama, you should have quit a long time ago!
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Idea! Thanks!!

first of all, thank you all for your support and real good advice. I think you all are right. I cannot give up my dream for a girl. Destiny!! anyway, now i am back on track and really really THANKS!!


I am extremely sorry for bringing up this topic here on a professional social site and I hope nobody wastes their precious time on this thread now. I have understood and thanks!!


Lets beat this USMLE!
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